Marrying with Minis: Perfecting Your Child-Inclusive Wedding

Alice Briggs

Including children in your wedding, such as flower girls, ring bearers, or junior bridesmaids and groomsmen, can add a delightful touch to your ceremony. However, it does come with its own set of considerations. Here are some things to think about:

  • Age of the Children: The age of the children involved is a crucial factor. Younger children (toddlers and babies) are less predictable and may require more guidance or supervision. Older children (aged 7 and up) can generally understand their roles better and are less likely to be overwhelmed by the event.
  • Rehearsal: Regardless of their roles, it’s important to have a rehearsal involving the kids. This will help them understand what they need to do and where they need to go, which can help them feel more confident and less likely to be nervous or scared.
  • Attire: Ensure the children’s outfits are comfortable, not just cute. If they’re uncomfortable, they’re more likely to be irritable. Comfortable shoes are especially important.
  • Plan for Boredom: Weddings can be long and tedious for children. Consider setting up a kid-friendly area with games, coloring books, or even hire a babysitter or entertainer to keep them occupied.
  • Their Role: Keep their tasks simple and clear. Whether they’re scattering petals, carrying a sign, or holding a ring, make sure it’s something they can manage easily.
  • Be Flexible: Despite your best plans, things might not go as expected. Children can be unpredictable, so be ready to go with the flow. If the flower girl decides she’d rather sit with her mom than stand at the front, it’s not the end of the world.
  • Food & Drinks: Have kid-friendly food and drinks available. Children might not appreciate the gourmet meal prepared for your adult guests.
  • Supervision: Make sure you’ve designated an adult or two who can keep an eye on the kids, guide them when necessary, and handle any issues that might arise.
  • Timing: If the children are very young, consider their nap times. You might want to schedule key moments for times when they’re less likely to be tired or cranky.
  • Consider Child-Free Portions of the Event: Depending on the formality and time of the event, consider having portions of the event (like the ceremony or a late-night reception) that are child-free.

Remember, the key is to keep children involved but also make sure they’re cared for and entertained so that everyone, including them, can enjoy the day.