Let's Include the Family

By Megan Zapalac

We know you have already thought about including your family members, but, we want to add a couple of suggestions and an encouraging word as you think through this process.  Including family in all aspects of the wedding is important, but there are some interesting ways to do this. 

One unique way is to have your parents, cousins, the wedding party, and really close friends share memories about you that you might not have thought of in a while.  This could be at the Rehearsal Dinner, the Reception, or maybe even something briefly during the ceremony.  Imagine them showing their support in your life and marriage. 




Another special idea is to have your Grandparents (or older couple you too look up to) give you marriage advice for a happy and healthy marriage.  Certainly, there will be some couples you both look up to as role models that everyone would appreciate learning from. 

To include those who have passed on in your family, you might save a spot at the wedding venue entrance, or in the pews or chairs for group pictures.  You could also have their photos displayed accordingly.

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Including your father in a special moment is a great way to include him beyond tradition.  For example, having a private first look before the ceremony with your father or father figure is a great way to add to your big day. 

While your mother will most likely be present before the wedding as you dress, ask her to share with you and your bridesmaids advice about marriage.  The conversation will be rich and your bridal party will be encouraged through the conversation.

If there are younger children in the family, ask them be the flower girl and ring bearer or ushers.   Older cousins can also participate in the readings at the ceremony.  

Finally, every wedding needs a designated witness, which can be anyone above the age of 18.  This might be a truly special honor to bestow on a family member who is not already participating in the wedding.   These assignments will begin to meld your families together in special ways that you will never regret.